I originally wrote about love in order to feel purpose, because I think love is the only thing that means much. Previously I’ve read about happiness research (check out Shawn Achor!), but not connected my own happiness to my ability to be loving. That idea seemed self-serving, so I concluded that I should gain happiness from seeing that I was a loving person. While I don’t think that’s a terrible conclusion, I recently read a quote from Wanjiru Kamau-Rutenberg that’s stuck with me: ”The most useless people are people driven by guilt. The most useful people are driven by a sense of abundance.”
Love is grown by a sense of having a cup that runneth over. I’m pleased to report that I had originally included in the love blog the “something not-so-loving” note because I wanted to give voice to the realist in me who felt people around me weren’t so loving, but on many days I had to think very hard to come up with something unloving that had been done specifically to me. Mostly people just don’t think about effects of their actions, it’s not that they intend harm. I am the one manufacturing that feeling in the present from the past, but it is not as insurmountable a monster as I imagine it. I’m combining my experiences with Mr. Achor’s and Ms. Kamau-Ruterberg’s to form a blog that looks like this:
I’m grateful for:
Thank you to:
I started Day for Love as an exercise to give meaning to everyday life. I was depressed, and everything – even picking up my feet to walk – was drudgery. Originally I tried identifying things I enjoyed, but it didn’t seem to help. It’s really what love I put out into the world, and how I experience love that others give me that makes me feel engaged, connected, and ultimately joyful. I chose to post my love experiences because I know I’m not alone in that feeling, and I hope interacting with this blog makes you feel more engaged, connected and joyous.
Its structure will follow:
1. A specific compassionate loving thing I birthed into the world today.
2. A specific loving thing someone gave to me today.
3. A not-so-loving thing someone gave to me today.
4. A compassionately loving thing I did in response to the not-so-loving thing today.
I would love to hear your loving stories as well.